A Dating Epidemic? Umm…No “You” are The Issue

So If you know me by now and read through my articles you’d know I’m very old fashioned, like yeah I look like I gangsta but reality is I’m such an innocent respectful conservative girl hahahah! well….(depends who you ask I guess), but honestly! like when I loved, I loved and I was commited, and I never played around with people feelings just for my own personal desires…never!

And I never even played around! like all of these dating shenanigans which are becoming soooo easy to do! like literally swipe right…now swipe left…left again…okay there it is!

It bores me to death small talks, ughhhhh like honestly yesterday I learned a term that never knew that it existed and yet it described me to a T:
“Sapiosexual”
A person who find intelligence…sexy.

That’s it! thats who I am! I mean decent looks and hygiene are core! but in reality on silly apps where you swipe right and left I don’t care about the Abs! everyone can get abs, those who work hard for it, and those who pay for half an hour surgery.

But character, intelligence and A good sense of humor…ummmm no money can buy you that!

So it is really rare and scarse, seeing that we live in a world of replicas, all women are paying to look the same, and all men mimicking each others behaviours and boasting more and more about their fake masculanity that is if it exists then its toxic, not because they were born like this…no no! but because every thing around them brainwashed them into thinking this is what a man is!

That even the women, started being attracted to only that! THE MORE TOXIC YOU ARE ! THE MORE WE LOVE YOU!

Not me :) I’m a painnnn in the ass!! literally a walking headache! that if a man with such traits come my way, I’d keep on trolling and dropping sick burns that they get sooo angry of me and just cuss me and leave the convo hahaha (success).

I get bored easily so the apps were never for me, and I never dated anyways as it’s not part of my Arab culture, in my culture the man says hello, falls in love, get married 😂
No dating involved.

But jokes aside, all of those who I loved, I met them organically, life brought us together, spark flew, we loved, shit hits the fan, we broke up.

So all of the dating games are really an uncharted territory that I never entered nor had any interest and when I was bored and thought okay let me see, I geniunely couldn’t last more than half an hour on Bumble as it bored me to death! even Bumble BFF!

All girls had in their bios that they are looking for other girls to go drink matcha, play padel or pilates!

All girls had their pictures taken by a professional photographer and then modified by AI to make them look like godesses! seriously divine..like such creatures cannot be walking with us in the streets because they are so divine we cannot risk the air messing up their purities.

And then we have me…..the trampest of tramps! the one who goes on apps for the wrong reasons…..to crack jokes! so it never worked out, girls are tooo boring and bland….men are too horny! that they only want to talk about one thing, not even build up for it! no no zero character, just dick pics.

And honestly…I don’t know not one girl who just likes to be smacked with a dick pic, before even having a conversation, like….I don’t know at this point the men have better odds sending nudes to each other, but not us.

However, few days ago I was on the app store looking for an app and I had the VPN, so my location was somewhere maybe europe! and I see an ad of an app, which is a dating app but illuminati vibes! I’ve never seen anything like it!

Soooo in your face culty vibes! the eye of horus! the triangle with eye! all of it! so the consipiracy theorist in me said:
SHUT UP AND TAKE MY MONEY!

I didn’t read the descirption nor had a clue what this is! I just thought okay like tinder and bumble but giving conspiracy theory….I’m IN!

Made a profile, with my innocent pictures, and wrote a sarcastic bio. ZERO INTEREST IN MAKING MYSELF LOOK HOT, all efforts are on sarcasm.

And the likes started flooding in, on this app its likes based so someone likes you, you like back and its a match.

And when I say flooding….it was flooding, within 24 hours I had over 400 humans on my likes list! WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK!

Hold on…wait for it…its not because I’m a goddess…no no! turns out! it’s a sex and kinks app, and rarely anyone put their pics on it, especially not the women, and I go there…and here you go love here’s 3 pics of me, do you need my national id number or is that enough information.

God how Naive I am….and then I speak to a guy who did a “bold move” which is basically he doesn’t wait for me to like, he can pay coin (to the app not to me — i wish it was to me) or something and just slide into my dms.

So we got talking because he was funny, and then he told me…ummm! you do know that this is a sex app, and I’m like….no i didn’t but that makes sense for the amount of dick pics that I’ve seen today! and I just died laughing! I can’t believe it! how did I end up here!

But that guy was actually funny! like he wasn’t even talking anything sexual the bants were soo goood! so I just stayed for the sarcasm, and booommm! life is not a fairy tail innit? turns out he’s married…yeah he was very open about it! and no its not an open marriage! he literally cheats and says…well I have desires I can’t do anything about it.

No no no no….listen bro I love the bants, but! what on earth! I mean i wasn’t rude to him because I honestly respect the honesty! he could’ve not shared that info because i didn’t even ask! he could’ve played along as if he’s single! but he said the truth! his truth! yeah but….that’s not who i am love! no matter how much the devil is tempting, there is another woman in the equation that is innocent, and even If i don’t know you, or her! but how can i do that to another woman? what would save me from future karma from hitting me back?

And from my history….Karma always hits me in the back to teach me a lesson and it would be so clear, that this is happening because I did that.

Yeah I didn’t want my future to involve a cheater, so I started wrapping it off, nicely wasn’t rude and wasn’t even gaslighting…I told him exactly what I think in the most polite way, and thats it…off I go.

And I thought…bummer! he was really funny like forget about sex and shit, odds of me ever doing trashy cheap stuff are literally zero to none. but the bants were sooo goood! and I’m soooo bored in this stupid ass war.

So i stayed on the app, but not liking anyone because they are lame as fuck! and boring to death! and obviously…horny! as its a sex app.

Until I saw a guy who looked normal, and it shows he’s only 2 days on this app (i’m 1) so we are both newbies in the land of filth, so we can be buddies.

And he started talking, and ofcourse I’m like this:
Sarcasm, joke, sarcasm, joke, hahahhaa, sick burns, comeback, sarcasm, sarcasm.

But what was facisnating! is his comebacks! I have never met anyone who meets my comebacks with even better ones! and…..he made me laugh!

and you may think..yeah so what! no no…this is rare! the men that come to my life are literally in arabic we call them “بيض” meaning eggs, buts its more the stinking smell of eggs, mostly bad sense of humor thinking they are the funniest, as they are used to girls laughing to their bad jokes just so they can get the money and the gifts.

But I laughed….not once, not twice…I kept on laughing! he was soo funny and he seems very intellegent! WHATTTTT!!! queue to my knowledge of what is a: 
Sapiosexual

And here’s what i realised from the few “good decent guys” that i talked with which totals to 4:

1. married guy — off the list
2. white brit — started off good but then he wanted to give his political opinions about iran, so i went into a long ass rant my fingers typing faster than my brain is thinking, and pissed me off, and we fought and i left the chat
3. Guy who is an Arab from the gulf but seems like his personality is soo not arab, didn’t even make not one sex related remark, he’s also very sarcastic, very fun, not as fun as that other guy (the top contender) but he is also smart and funny (i don’t know how he even looks like, and i didn’t even ask, because I’m not even feeling it…so like i don’t care, this convo won’t even last…because:
4. The top contender, the funniest and good looking, and smart guy who makes me laugh so hard! yeah….listen lets not jump into conclusions here, this migth end up in a disaster like everything usually, but here’s the difference! i don’t need to know what his political views and life mission and goals! he will not be my husband as i don’t even want now to be in a relationship, but…he makes me laugh so much and I’m enjoying it.

So I guess…that’s whats dating is? well its fun but its a numbers game, you need to do trial and errors until you land on one decent humans in a land of trash.

Now why did I write this up, not to tell you I’m having fun before I get nuked down any minute, no no….this to tell you the realisation of, there’s no dating epidemic…you are the issue.

Because those 4 guys that made the cut actually all had the same thing in common, they were themselves, they were honest, they loved a good laugh and banter, they were all complaining about how boring women on apps are! so bland! and I tried! I honestly I tried whether on Bumble BFF or here…honestly trying to a hold a convo with these women is a chore! jesus christ! I have no idea how men do it! it’s literally a burden!

It was soo disappointing seeing my own kind are this bland and boring, can’t even make a joke or take one, they are so bland, so meh! so passionless, they are no a sex app and yet acting like virgin marry! bitch! even the ones on Muzz (the muslim tinder) are looking for sex! so like act like it! this is not a prayer group…why are you here?

And its such a turn off those who start the convo with:
Hi
How are you?

once they do that, I leave the chat! because what repsonse are you expecting? I’m good…okay and then?
Are you my therapist or what? why do you need to know how I am.

You clearly can see, I’m in Dubai so currently not the greatest of times, and I’m on what looks like a kinks app! so what do you think? how am I?
OBVIOUSLY BORED OUT OF MY MIND!

So don’t add to my misery! those who made the cut all of them started by making a comment related to my bio, which I’ll spare you the details but it have a sentence that says:
Never played padel and never drank matcha

Haha…and those who have been on the apps would understand that its a diss for the average bitches in dubai who all use those two statements as if something to show how amazing and feminine and womanly they are….ugh! id rather drink Clorox than be that girl.

So all of the four above, started by saying something interesting, something smart! or like something that I can carry on the bants from, and not:
Hi
How are you?

And all of them were surprised by how fun and funny I am, all of them stayed for the bants not for the sex, as they aren’t getting any….please..it’s Ramadan, have some self control. hahaha

And it made me realise, there’s no dating epidemic! the issue starts with you! you are not being true to yourself, you are putting masks and yet aiming to find someone to love you for who you are….how so? do they even know who you are? or will they only know months down the line and then shit hits the fan, as thats not the same person they liked or you liked! you were faking a persona that society told you (this checks out as cool).

Also the more mature you are, the more you realise men are really simple creatures, its us women who are complicated, and thats why we are built like this, opposites attract, we are complicated, they are simple.

But we go wrong when we try to over analyze them by thinking the are behaving like we do, COMPLICATED, when in the reality 99% of men I met who are actual men not those pussies that are spreading like the plague, no the actual actual man! cares about few things in life:

1. Peace of mind
2. Having fun
3. Sex
4. Calm Home
5. A women that appreciate their true masculinity

Not in any specific order but thats it! that’s it! so simple! any of us women can give that to any man…but nooooooo we need to put a hundred and billion labels on them, and why did you do this and why did you do that, and burden them with shit loads of details and unnecessary women drama (it is women drama i’m not being sexist) because a man that sits and gossips with you is a feminine man, because a true man would sit and listen to you…he would understand you, he will not cut you off or make you feel like you’re stupid, but he wouldn’t be the one briging you the gossip and spilling the tea for you…..thats what we do, because we like drama and we like to stir the pot.

And if we are actually real, then we also want the above, peace of mind, to have fun, someone to protect us and to provide for us, a calm home which for us is a shoulder to cry on, and a man that we can be our true feminine self with.

But honestly its easier said than done because everything around us in the world is working overtime to make us lose our true essence, so women find themselves with men, that they are more feminine than them and now its labelled as:
“Wow he’s soo connected to his feminine side, he’s so spiritually mature” yuck! if he cries and journals then that’s not what men were created to do bitch!

Men used to fight with swords, and chop wood and hunt! they weren’t created to write journals!

And I don’t care how that makes me sound! fuck it! I told you I’m so traditional, yeah I know I don’t look like it, because mainstream media made you think traditional means oppressed dumb woman who is slaving in the kitchen, but here’s what I am:
I love cooking for the people I love, so ofcourse I’d love cooking for my partner, it aggitates me when my house is messy because I’m so messy, so ofcourse if I’m sharing the place with someone I’d make sure it’s always tidy and clean regardless if its me doing it, but its my responsibility to make sure the home is our sanctuary, and ofcourse its my job if my partner is working hard to provide, and I’m not (for whatever reason) then when my partner comes back home for me to do my best to ease the stress, because it’s so stressful out there that the last thing both of us men or women need is someone at home who nagssss after a long day, majority of us just want silence.

I know I want silence! i fucking hate noise after 8 pm, and opinions and shouting and arguements, I just want peace! because its a battlefield for me from 7 am to 8 pm, so after that time…its peace time! so yeah I will be making sure that its peaceful for both me and my partner.

They make it sound like the above features is ughhh such an old fashioned oppressed woman, when in reality, that’s what would bring both of us joy! me doing what I’m gifted in doing, which is loving and nurturing and my partner in being the strong provider that protects me, that takes care of me, that make sure I don’t need to worry about all of that shit that us women are having to do now because men are not doing their roles.

So yeah I am quite traditional, but that doens’t mean in my 7 am to 8 pm i’ll be going from one salon to the other and drinking matcha and pilates with the girls because I’m soo empty and shallow and my partner does everything.

No No, I will still be building my empire, because thats my passion, thats who I am! regardless if I’m a man or a woman, I have hobbies, interests, passions, side hustles, travels! marriage or a relationship shouldn’t erase who I am, it should be two people coming together as they are and sharing life together in its good and bad.

So its even shit when women start being pissed off from their husbands because they want to play PS5 and they keep on abusing them for this guilty pleasure, that it becomes a sin! what on earth! why all of my friends are like that! let the fucking man play PS5! it’s his escapism! and you go do something!

Women that gets pissed off are the ones that lack any hobbies or interests, these are the ones that flood the apps being a replica or yet another bimbo, that just want to be a trophy wife, okay baby you look divine but looks fade! and thats why men cheat! because you are boring as fuck! and because they just got sooo used to how good you look that for them, their eye start wandering to something else, because you are not satisfying them on other aspects.

Because you are not giving them a home that they would worry about losing, you are giving them headache! nagging! a house that they have to take a deep breath before they enter that door because they know their peace would be ruined inside, so ofcourse they would cheat because another bimbo doesn’t need to worry about him moving his shoes from the sideway or his hair all over the sink, she just care about how he treats her in that 1 hour they are together.

I know …. reality sucks! but it sucks because we created that reality, because we deviated from our true path.

Also men, they became so feminine OH MY GOODNESS! men dancing on tiktok and socials, men who ask women to split the bills and rent and shit yes I know life is hard but work harder! change that job! upskill! do something! move to a cheaper country! DO ANYTHING! but live on the expense of your female partner, what on earth is wrong with you?

And also….any man with “Moobs” you have hermonal imbalance! so go fucking check your hormones and if you don’t want to hit the gym its okay, start walking, and find one physical activity that you enjoy doing and start doing it multiple times a week.

It is not okay that women take care of themselves until the day they day, and men become bald with belly by 35! we also have feelings we also see all of those hot as fuck men on social media, and we also have sexual desires and you are also not enough for us…so we cheat :)

And those who dont are the ones that decided to kill any desire and passion within them, and to just erase herself as a woman just to be a “wife” and a “mother” but let me tell you that the frustrations will be spilling into the way she raises those kids and the way the home is, and the way she deals with you.

So your relationship is a failure.

Bottom line, there’s nothing wrong with the dating game, it’ not an epidemic, we are the issue, because we stopped following our gut instinct and our intuition, we let social media dictate who we are and what we should be, we let the noise of others around us to tell us, how we should live, love, have sex, and marry.

But if you for once in your life, just be true to yourself, what do “YOU” love doing? what do “YOU” like in a partner and what kind of partnership you want…Booom! you’ll get exactly that.

Now I’m not saying I found that, no…I don’t even want it now, as that partnership requires alot of time and attention to grow it, and I don’t have time now, BUT i did have fun talking to these guys, there are actually really fun and truly masculine men out there, but they are few! but I found them! not because oh I’m so lucky, no no! but because it started with me! I was being myself, in my pictures I didn’t choose the ones where once in a blue moon I am wearing heels and have full make up on, no no I chose the one that I look cute because I am cute! but also wearing what I wear every day!

In my bio I didn’t list down how amazing I am, no no! I showed what my character is…and while yes I did have over 440 likes 99% trash, but in 24 hours I spoke to 4 that had potential and even if that was the last time i spoke to them, well I had fun for those few hours it wasn’t traumatizing.

And at least the one with potential…well I laughed with him today too! and it may be few days, few weeks, whatever it is! I’m no looking for anything, I’m not rushing for anything, I just want to enjoy life, and enjoy who I am, and just chill! I’ve been serious enough, I’ve chased hard enough, I tried to force things long enough….I’m tired! I jsut want to have fun, take it easy…who knows if we are living until tomorrow? for the first time ever, everyone around me is saying this statement:
“We may not live until tomorrow”

But for me, I always lived like there’s no tomorrow, not when it comes to heart matters though, but hey! I grow and I change, and I experiment :)

And at least for today, I am actually happy! and at peace and content, and if this is the last day, then yeah It is a good one to wrap up with.

Peace out!