If There’s No Headache..Then I’ll go find me one
Exactly what the headline says, I literally woke up today while yes very late! I don’t even remember the last time I woke up by 9 am! like its been years literally, anyways I needed that rest because today I am up and running and back to my full energy power both mentally and physically, and I had the half assed free hotel breakfast and then made my daily piligrimage to my FAVORITEEE CAFE IN THE LAND!!!! yes yes you may say that statement is over exaggerated but honestly! we have nothing like it in Dubai! IT IS PERFECT!
This is what I look for when I look for spots to just chill and work the entire day! amazing drink options, the food is great, each section have different decor and each one of them is a vibe and super comfy…I’m chilling in the sofas area and its soooo comfy and modern and honestly its epic! and I’m talking about one specific branch not all are like this, this one:
Himalayan Java — Tridevi Thamel
what an upgrade from the shitty costa I go to in Dubai, which btw is so shitty both coffee wise and the interior wise, the chairs in costa are soo old that you can see the butcheeks dent on the chairs…but its a place that I can sit for hours and take my shoes off if i want to and just sit crossed legs as if i’m at home, so basically that shitty costa feels like home! and here this location of Himalayan Java feels like home too but add to it that it is absolutelyyyyy the besttt in the land hahahha free marketing for the biz! but I mean it! like I love it so much that when I came it actually automatically connected me to Wifi…that goes to show you how many times I’ve been here before, literally every trip I came to Nepal, I come here more than once.
So Anyways I’mma hang around here for this week to work and in the afternoon i’ll go for a walk to explore, I don’t feel yet like I want to meet people so I didn’t reach out to my friends here, maybe in a few days, because I can’t be arsed basically I just need a reset from the noise.
So I came here to work right?…RIGHT!?!?!?
Well…Lets just say I was scrolling the gram and then I saw a reel of:
“Why you should go to Uzbekistan” and as I watched it, I was like…wait a minute!! I always wanted to go back there! because I went only once and it was 4 days 3 cities! so you can imagine how packed it was, I barely saw anything in each city:
Tashkent — Samarkand-Bukhara
So I immediately forwarded that to my sister and told her lets take the kids in July, and simultanously I forwarded the same to my cousins and my auntie with a looooong ass voice note, explaining
WHY WE SHOULD GO TO UZBEKISTAN IN JULY?!
And let me tell you, that out of everyone you’d expect would be a hassle which is my aunty who is above 60 so different generation and whatnot, but she is the most easy going out of all of those annoying cousins! like literally she always says yes! that’s it! no need for me to build a blueprint and provide every single detail and build a casestudy along with pictures and videos, while her daughter….ay yay yay yay yaaaaaaaa
I swear to god I spent just two hours with her! two hours of time that unnecessary wasted! and what bugs me is that I don’t understand why its this hard? like they act as if they are doing me a favor when in reality I’m the only one who every year over 4–5 times come and do exactly this where I bombard them with a full plan along with details and yalla lets go!
Do we ever go? No :)
The only time we went was when I left my job at the agency and I was ballin’ with my end of service! that I invited them all to a out of the city stay for the entire family in the outskirts of Istanbul and after that invited all the ladies in the family to Alaçatı and let me tell you! it was mind blowing! we had soo much fun! and we had the kids and all so all 3 generations were together and it was so much fun and I planned it all, and trust me its soo hard to impress everyone on a trip but I did it! and I always do it!
Because I know how to plan good trips! actually ok as humble as possible but I am super talented in trips planning, and not only that but I also find the best offers and the best logistics, I actually plan the trip even by google maps destinations, so I check the best way to go from point a to b and then i arrange the daily plan as such to ensure we are being as efficient as possible, to not have the elderly or the kids nagging on our heads.
Yeah but I can’t pay for them all every single time can I? not yet at least 😂 so we had Azerbaijan for eid al fitr and thank god that didn’t work out, as the war happened and we would have had a hassle with the tickets and bookings…etc.
And I planned a trip to Kenya for Safari and beach and honestly any sensible human would jumpppp into what I offered, but ofcourse they gave me a hard time (except my aunty) and we didn’t go, and today I pitched Uzbekistan, because ever since I went there once, I knew I want to come again for a longer time.
And I never got the chance even though it would be perfect solo or in a group and so close to dubai and cheap, but like….I was sooo depressed from end of 2024 to end of 2025 that even leaving my sofa was a chore.
So basically my cousins give me headachesssssss and its soooo annoyinggggggg!!! and they speak about budgets and whatnot when in reality the one that nags the most is the only one who have a successful business out of us all! and she just nags and nags and nags, you know what I realised! I realised I may never had as much money or a passport or whatever priviledge my friends and family have, but I swear out of everyone around me combined!
I’m the one that knows how to enjoy myself and live life even with basic means (and I have another cousin who’s like that but she have 2 kids so its restraining) but like I am soo blessed that I didn’t turn out like any one my family! NONE OF THEM! not my mom or dad or sister would ever agree to travel to or stay at places that I stay, and yet they wish they can live the stories that I live, but how would they? how could you see the wonders of life when you go from one resort to the other but in another country?
How would you hear mindblowing stories and get taken to off the beaten path spots if you are not open minded to mingle with locals and wander through streets that are not touristy, so I am absolutely grateful to god that I turned out the person that I am, because I don’t even know how!
Like my entire upbringing was with “The Elites” whether my family or my friends, ughhh bores me to death, like we can’t really be saying the truth if we say food at fine dining spots is actually nice? like its not even! and the portion is like pigeon food! and I’d sit in heels and dresses that agitate me, while I watch the fam admire the spot and the food…walla they are lying, they like clout thats why 😂
When we went to BBQ on the side of the road even though it was gravel and not sand, but I was barefoot and dad looked at me and said:
Are you sure you want to be barefoot? I said yes dad! he shook his head in disapproval hahhaa because that man was just yesterday complaining about people who leave the house in slippers and he have a daughter that is barefoot on the gravel of the road!
To be honest they are becoming more open minded, like alottt!! because they realised that every time they said yes and I took them to a new place which I always make sure its an experience whether alone or with the kids, its always so much fun that even if they wouldn’t do it themselves alone or with their friends, but a break from their immaculate life is nice (even if they don’t admit it, I know it is).
Because we never really remember the dinners we had in a restaurant while we were being aristocrats 😂 but we always mention the times we did something fun (and humbly I’m always the one planning).
So in a nutshell, dealing with my annoying cousin today who let me tell you have a very strong passport, her own successful company, and the freedom to do whatever she wants in life.
And yet…. she’s A PAIN IN THE ASS!!!jesus I remember the night we wanted to share a room in that villa in Sabanca (outskirts of Istanbul) where literally the entiree family was there both men and women so we are above like 12 people right? and i said okay i’ll share a room with her as she was without her husband and there was a room with twin beds, but she started putting rules:
- Don’t put an alarm I’m very light sleeper.
- Don’t turn on the light even a flash would wake me up.
I said okay I’ll just go sleep on the sofa outside, she said no no no! I’m too scared to sleep alone! but do you snore? and I looked at her and I don’t know I really don’t know, do I snore???
Sometimes I wake up to the sound of my snore, and others I don’t 😂 and some people who slept next to me said I snored when I am very tired, and others say no….so It depends, but was that a satisfactory answer to her highness? ofcourse not:)
So I waited until she fell asleep and then went and slept on the sofa outside, god! what a high maintenance human! actually in both of the villas where I was the host right? so normal scenario would be if its my money then I’d get the best room, but I didn’t! and I didn’t even care for it! in both places I slept on the sofa in a room alone, as long as i have my space for peace and that I can wake up in the morning early as i like to, without anyone complaining thats all i care about!
Because when you are on vacation with others, you are seeking the experience you are not seeking the comfort, especially when its a big family kind of thing even when we are adults, we sleep feet and heads on mattresses, or wherever you get a space! because WHO CARES!
Anyways, I dragged myself into this headache today, and now this headache will be reoccuring until the trip happens, which I hope it happens as most likely they’d ditch! and to be honest I don’t care if they ditch, only if my sister says yes then thats enough!
And if it was possible then I’d actually take the kids without my sister as she is also a headache! that makes us always book the fancy hotels so she can do instagram morning stories, and I need to sell a kidney to afford, fucking hell mate! when my sister used to say that I’m adopted and that I’m our neighbor kid (the neighbor which we both hate and always make fun of) I guess…there’s actually truth in that! because how come I ended up being a tramp in a family or aristocrats! I don’t know….if I didn’t have my dad’s gigantic nose…I’d be doubting what my mom did when she got pregnant with ma hahahah.
Thank god no body from the family ever reads anything I write, so it’s a safe zone.
Anywhooo vent is over, headache will subdue and I’ll get back to work! I’m working on something very cool and exciting, can’t wait for it to see the light 👀
Peace out!
