My Unpopular Opinions That Nobody Asked For
Two articles in a span of few hours…whaaaaaattt!!!
Yeah I kind of sneaked my way out of commitments (more like delayed them till evening) as I felt I just would like to…rot :)
And I was doing my rounds on socials I got triggered by things that I felt like, it is due to write my take about things that many will oppose:
- Guys in finance or Crypto bros who is their ultimate dream is to flex a sports car, wiggle some watch on their arm or eat caviar on a yacht (even if they hate the taste of it), are most likely low on testosterone, very insecure and I think it shows from how skinny their pants are…no?
And the ones who use that to promote their business are actually losers who probably rent those cars or make friends of those who have those cars just to shoot “lifestyle content” so they can sell you a course, a sign up to their trading platform or whatever the fuck they scam.
Here’s my advice to you: if someone’s social media is all about their cars, their luxury booth at some sports event, them sitting in finedining place wearing some gay fit and holding their man purse…then:
A) New money — run as fast you can as the insecurities that will come to the surface later on will be too much to handle.
B) You are the product, so never trust them with your paisa. (Practicing my Nepali as I very soon will need to say again in my day to day:
Paisa chaina ❌
Which means: No money
Hahaha at least I learned one thing useful!
- Girls that look like goddesses, unfortunately sorry to break it to you, but they are insecure as fuck! No actually they look at the mirror and can only see their flaws (which to us normal creatures they are absolutely not visible or worthy of mentioning) — yeah its so sad! I actually met quite alot of them in my life, and they all were the same on the inside…sooo weird! And due to that insane insecurity, they actually mainfest their worst nightmares:
Their men cheat on them with a girl beyond average 🤷🏽♀️.
Looks mean shit in this day and age as we can all go get it so easily at any clinic nowadays! Build your personality love, and invest in character development😘
- Men and Women are equal…fuck me! I can’t believe I fell into that trap, you know i should have known that once something is mainstream its always an agenda and i become opposing to it, i don’t know how that one slipped me!
So i admit! I was wrong! We were never equal and we should never be equal, let me tell you why:
Because asking to be equal is for us woman is literally banging nails into our own coffins, why the fuck did we decide its such a glamorous thing to be:
“Strong independent woman”
I can’t believe i was the reason for my own misery do to following that narrative!
Lets break it down:
- We are physically not as strong as men (interms of muscular build) and why do we need to? So let that bitch carry the bags, let him fix the drainage, let him go chop woods! Men are built to carry the weight of us and everything around us! Men were not made to do somatic healing and do journaling 🤣🤣🤣 and i dont give two shits who this statement pisses off! Its my own! That opinion is my own so go make your own.
Now when i travel i no longer say : No thank you I can carry the bags myself, no no…you do it….Why would I?
Moving forward I want the things that make my life easy, so…i will no longer add to all of my lists of responsibilities the burdens of what fellow men should do. Period.
- Let him be the provider, why are we fighting so hard to spend our money on him? Yes I’m all in when jt comes to partnerships and helping each other, but:
House, bills, life necessities that should not be my responsibility 🤷🏽♀️ God created men to be the providers and the protectors, do that! Handle the shelter and the life necessaties, don’t bug my brain.
And I don’t say that in any way selfishly or like bratty AT ALL! I am sooo not the woman who would expect an hermes bag or whatever shit, so boring! So i will not burden you with what other women do, so do not burden me with what “YOU SHOULD DO”. Amen.
Real arab men do that above by default, they wont accept it even to be negotiated as thats what their parents raised them to be and all of their ancestors, but unfortunately they lost their true nature, and now they do somatic healing and cry while journaling and ask us for emotional support while they’re PMSing 🤷🏽♀️.
Anyways if you are that gay, then by all means be with a man, don’t come chase after me and then cry when you hear the truth…ugh.
And btw, i’d love to be responsible for the house and the food and the cleaning, not necessarily doing it myself (it’s smart work not hard work) thats my problem not yours innit? If you have time to sit and complain about house stuff then you’ve got too much time on your hands love, go get the bread. If i want to spend my money on my luxuries which are cleaner and whatnot, then…i’ll take care of that :) else I’d do it, so there’s my territory and your territory and we shouldn’t cross.
*P.S: this statement above doesn’t at all mean I advise women to not have a passion, dream, their own business and all of that, quite the opposite! Go build your empire sista, we are multi taskers and you know it! I personally can run the house and a business and many more and still have time for fun in the evenings and all of the moms or single ladies around me are the same, its just a matter of optimizing your lifestyle and identifying your proprieties and acting accordingly, men are one dimensional and can only do one thing at a time (pathetic creatures) so thats why i said just go get the money broski and dont bug my brain…..🤫
- Career ladder progression = Success and Fullfillment, gosh…what a big psyop that is!
My take: The higher you climb the ladder, the more you lose peace of mind, mental stability and you become closer and closer to breaking down, as stress becomes your default state.
No money can fix the above, hence why the more you climb up, the more on paper your life becomes picture perfect with all the materialistic you have, but on the inside you know damn well you’ve lost your freedom, your control of your time and your health.
I repeat: no money can fix that.
Success shouldn’t be defined by societies, it should be defined by “you” for your own life, what actually makes you fullfilled? Maybe its a tiny coconut shack on the side of the road where you just sell those coconuts, talk to people, laugh and listen to your music while doing it.
Yeah then…well done!! You have aced it in your own life! Who cares what others think….noise.
- Families are dysfunctional by default, and they are increasingly so.
True to an extent, but its like people now think its cool when they have trauma, i had friends that found it cool to say:
“I hate my mom” just to fit in a group of all traumatized bitches, i actually only said that sentence few times in my life while I was crying hysterically and in each one of those times it made me feel like shit saying it, as I don’t mean it.
Here’s the truth love, your family may be dysfunctional as everything around us actually fights for this to happen, the more silo’ed you are the more its easier to control you…how would they control you when you live in a building where all of your neighbors are your siblings and cousins and mom and dad and the elderlies and aunties? They won’t be able to control you because your life will be soo busy’ with events with birthdays, with family drama with getting something for your mom and helping your cousin with i dont know what, that you end up not listening to their propagandas, falling for their brainwash and collapsing into depression due to your loneliness.
So…my verdict! As annoying as parents may be and also close relatives, but having them close is actually a blessing and very crucial for a healthy survival and upbringing.
Your mom and dad were never taught how to be parents, they followed what their parents did, and thought they are doing their best for you, they are only humans and they make shit loads of mistakes just like you do, drop that ego, be the bigger guy, and work on fixing those relationships, it doesn’t need to be 100% healed! No no its fine you can still get annoyed by them and nag and vent and whatnot, but the idea of them coming to visit should bring you joy not burdens (thats how i used to feel pre-healing mine).
I learned while it was already a cliche that everyone say but I doubt all of them live by it:
Family comes first
They are the one that accept you with all of your shit whether they like it or not, just like you do for them because its not a choice! You are family, so act like it.
For me this trip for my mom and dad and mostly mom has been the best time i ever had with my mom in my entire life, i never sat and talked with mom until now, she never sat and listened until now, we transformed from that strict mother and child dynamic to, two adult women sitting and talking about life together, because i’m no longer young and neither is she.
As for dad, i guess i’m okay with him not playing any “dad” role in my life, that man just want to exist and chill no responsibility and no headache. Yeah so be it :) he wasn’t there when i needed him when i was younger, why would i need him now when i’m 1000x stronger?
So its okay for me, zero expectations from him.
As for the kiddos, it does take a village to raise kids and people say that so lightly…it is really one of the hardest thing ever, and unfortunately not all parents are actually parents, not even the people i know now in my generation who are my friends/family and they became parents…honestly its disastrous!
So…i personally try to play my role whenever I can, and i started giving them more time than i ever did, and all of my future plans include them all, all members no exception, and id love when i’m rich to have a big home and a guest house and i live in the guest house and they can have the big home as long as i have my privacy, id love nothing more than having a big family for all meals and weekend bbq’s and whatnot, and the above would still be valid when I have a partner too! I mean we will be rich enough that also my partner’s family can live with us in oneeeee big mansion like those’s turkish series 🤣🤣🤣 no jokes aside, i actually love that! And i want to make it real one day, whether i’m alone or with someone, the house will be so loud and busy and we’re always hosting and stuff and i’d cook for the tribe 👵🫕
- expiry dates. And no i’m not talking about food and products, I’m talking about “us” humans.
Biggest lie is timelines, expiry dates & society expectations.
Turn off the noise, defy it until it becomes mute and then enjoy the peace of mind like the one i reached, i will reinvent myself as many times as i want to in my life, i will change where i live whenever it doesnt feel like home to me, i’ll change what i do whenever it no longer serves my passion and fullfills me, and its my life and i’m the only one that matters in “my life”. As long as my decisions doesnt cause harm to anyone around me, then i dont understand why they have a say in my life choice?
Quiet the noise.
Easier said than done and It does creep to my mind sometimes, but i’m waaaaay better than before and its waaay quieter in my head than before.
And it’s just more peaceful! When i close my eyes late at night i just fall asleep in two seconds with zero heaviness on my consciousness…pure bliss may god always keep it like this 🙏
That’s all folks! Now medium will block me from writing for the next 24 hours even though i’m a paid member how shitty is that model!
But i’ve yapped enough!
Peace out 😉
