The Dating Epidemic “Shittt I was wrong!” — Part 2

The title says it all! Haha and I actually could’ve went and deleted my pervious article, but where’s the fun in that?

I find it fascinating how I change, how I learn and how I grow, and I have absolutely no issue in being wrong, where’s the fun in being right the entire time?

Okay so I don’t remember exactly what did I say in my previous article which maybe I wrote 10 days ago? and I only go and reread what I write after a while, so I will not do that now, but before you read this, you need to read that one, here.

I remember there were 4 contenders? yeah they are all out of the picture haha, well it is 2026 bruv! we live life on fastforward mode, so yeah they are out.

But! a day after I wrote that one, I met two new guys…and wow! and that “wow” is not just wow based on who/what they are, but it will have two sides, lets start with the superficial one.

First of all, I never dated! so everything that I ever heard about the dating realm was second hand experience, so whatever my friends told me, I took their words for it, especially that they all at core said exactly the same thing or faced the same issues.

But what shocked me is, how pathetic my friends are? like I never knew they were that pathetic and they had that much of a self esteem issue, until I joined the online dating world and I was shocked! so apparently my friends were literally actually choosing the trash of the trash because that’s the only thing they either managed to get? or maybe that’s what they believed they are worthy of?

Honestly, I don’t know its soo confusing! because when they showed me pictures of those guys there weren’t that good looking, and all of them are salaried employees (lower on the career ladder) or like barely anything important, and also the character is toxic as fuck!!! so in my head I thought that’s literally it! this is what men are in 2026! it’s a plague and everybody got infected.

But the last 10 days my experience was not like that AT ALL! dude the two guys that made the cut, they actually are veryyy good looking! six packs! like no no not only six packs, as in defined torso kind of shit! highly successful, super funny! super intellectual! honestly in my head there were alarms as if, if it’s too good to be true, then there’s something wrong.

But we will get to that in a bit..lets focus on my friends, what the fuck were they doing? literally they’ve been on the apps for yearssssss and they couldn’t score anything more than that trash? how??? HOWWW!!!

Listen, I always say as a package I love myself alot, and if it was a choice I’d choose to be born again with who I am and exactly how I look like (maybe smaller nose) but the rest I’m happy with, but I can see the girls on the apps are absolute models! like proper GODESSES! and yet! guess what! the men who are “good catch” they don’t want that anymore, that type of girls became also like a plague, and everybody got infected.

I drink matcha and I go to pilates and I play padel, and I do want a man to spend on me and be the provider but at the same time, I’m very modern you can’t domesticate me! you just spend on me but I will not be your trad wife….BORING!

Guess what’s becoming a rare commodity…..”character” yup! that one you can’t inject botox and fillers in to improve, you can’t fake it, and you can’t buy it with money.

And guess who have and epic character?…..your’s truly ofcourse! hahaha listen it’s not arrogance! I didn’t say I’m drop dead gorgeous, but yeah I can bet I have a very interesting personality and character than all of those Alo Bimbos, for sure…don’t even need to test to know….I KNOW!

So those “10/10” men are soo fed up from those mainstream girls, so their interest became….someone like me!

Because I can hold a conversation for hours, while majority of the girls on the app are like this:
“Yeah”
“lol”
“sure”

Ughhh!…how boring! also apparently 90% are looking for money, or someone to take them out for a fancy dinner and to get them gifts, and I’m all about the peasants life, and also they lack sense of humor and I know damn well that I’m soo funny that I make myself laugh hard! so I know how it is for others, and add to that when I want to, then I can show my feminine side…and other sides which we will not be delving into on this article because it’s a halal blog TYVM.

Bottom line is”
“I may not be the next Madison Beer, but I can be the only Leen Aljabri”
-Confucius

Haha! okay so I got two guys, top catch! both are actually interested in dating me and not one night stand because they can see I’m stubborn as fuck and very oriental thinking and I don’t want to change, not for them and not for anybody else, but yeah I can do dinners and hangouts for sure.

But what happened?

The first guy, entered my life in what may have been the angeriest phase I have ever been, everything was making me lash out due to the state of the world and the fucking Zionist shenanigans (don’t want to get heated up here so I’ll wrap it up) anyways I was soo pissed off, that I think my anger spilled into the convo, and he mentioned that his mom used to shout alot as a kid so he doesn’t like anyone to shout at him, and while I wasn’t shouting, but I’m arab and he’s europpean, so I guess we are too spicy for them 🤷‍♀ and yet he kept on talking to me actually, and the convo was flowing but it was just not giving, it felt like that man have alot of shit on his plate and doesn’t have time for endless arguements (my forte), so it died off.

Apparently upon stalking…that man is a VP at some financial corporate banks thing, Big stuff! important stuff! and I was just playing around, and yeah…..it was just maybe bad timing? or even that I would say maybe it’s destined to not happen because he does have the potential for me to actually like him…maybe love him? and that’s the lasstttt thing I need in my life now, I want to leave this city in a month or so, I can’t fall in love now. OFF THE TABLE.

The second guy however, works in a luxurious brand, also senior position, very funny, have so many hobbies and can have a conversation with me that lights up my neurons….and a part time model! yeah! no joke! proper model! but also a drummer! also a graphic designer! also an equestarian.
Europpean as well…(who knew that that is my type).

It was going smooth, hilarious start, we laughed alot! he made it out of the app to my gram….BUT! that man seems like he has been hurt alot in his past relationships, and that he had enoughhh of prostitutes looking girl who act like they are not what they are, only to come after his money or ask for things from him, so he was prejudice.

Any conversation that we had, he would get sooo heated up, without even me saying anything! he didn’t even want to hear! so unfortunately that guy had his past baggage impacting his current life…to be fair understandable BUT! here’s the difference, I don’t love him, even “like” is an overstatement, so I don’t have tolerance nor patience nor interest to “Fix” him, like I used to try and do with those who I loved.

So i respectfully….let it die, no fights, no arguements, it was just clear its not something I’d be interested in.

SO why did I say it’s an epidemic, not because the lack of options, there are plentyyyy of options, really REALLY decent men, like those two can easily be husband material, BUT! it became clear to me how messed up we all are.

How by the time you reach the age of 30 and above (they were and so am i) then we’ve been through sooo much shit! that it messed us up entirely! we’ve been harmed enough, that our default system mode because: “DEFENCE” “PROTECT” “SHUT OFF” anything to not let ourselves get hurt again, even if that meant missing out on a potential of a really good human entering our lives.

The first guy, it was my baggage that pushed him, and the second guy it was his baggage that pushed me.

And I don’t write that in any sad way, no no! to be honest I don’t even know what I was looking for when I went to the apps, because I know damn well I don’t want anything serious, but also…I’m not the type that fucks around? so what did I want?

I guess I was just bored, and also I wanted to prove something to myself, I always used to tell my friends, that I don’t date, but if I want to, I can make anyone fall in love with me….and they’d laugh! because how can the most inexperienced of them all say that?….but! I know what I am, and I proved it to myself in the last 10 days, I’m not saying those men fell in love with me, no no! but I can see their interest, interest in me as a human, with my character and weird jokes and everything about me, not just the fake persona of me, as I made sure to be 100% who I am, and those who like it, like it, and those who don’t then…it sounds like their problem not mine.

Most importantly, in my entire life all the people I’ve loved (maybe except the first guy I ever loved as I was soo young and stupid) but everyone that came after were really good looking, charismatic, educated, cultured..etc. So I never felt like I’m single because I can’t get anyone good, I always knew I’m single because I don’t want anyone to come in while I’m in deep shit mentally and emotionally and to drag them into the darkness with me.

So meeting those guys in the last 10 days proved to me that I don’t need to be desperate AT ALL! as whenever I want to, I can get the Creme de la Creme.

Because in a world of replicas, I never knew how to be anyone but ME! and that apparently became something people crave….authenticity.

Anyways, I’m happy I played around, it was fun! I laughed! I had emotions that been a while that I didn’t feel…but! I’m glad nothing worked out, I don’t want to stay, and I don’t want to leave feeling heart broken because I left someone I care about behind, and to go into my next chapter unable to enjoy it because I want to be back in Dubai with somebody.

I don’t want that, I want to go enjoy my life, and to enjoy my next chapter, and just like it always has been….the one who’s destined for me, will always come into my life, without me seeking.

That’s all! so basically if your friends has been eating your brain about how men are trash and they only find psychos, I guess it’s more your friends kind of problem and not the market, there are plenty of decent humans, so you just need to be a decent human and you’ll find someone on the same vibe.

The other part is, we are all fucked up! we all have emotional damage…and life is insanely hard….so you’ll face soo much shit in your relationship, and you need to go into it with the mindset of, we will face shit but I’m willing to heal and grow with that person.

Peace out!