When There’s Too Much Resistance…You Should Let Go

When I was in Nepal, on my last day I was lucky to be accompanied by a very smart man, who was also the tour guide but he was way more than that, that this label is actually offensive to him (in my opinion) because anyone can say they are tour guides, taxi drivers, people in the street, anyone who lived anywhere can say oh I’m a tour guide.

But this man is so knowlegable, so smart, so deep! he knew the answers to all of my questions!

he is a full on nerd! and I enjoy the company of such people so much that hours and hours passed and I didn’t feel it! and you’ll get to see it all, all of our bants, all of our talks, all of his insane knowledge…all of it!

on The Stupid Theory Youtube Channel, when the Patan videos get released.

Anyways, Ganesh..the Nepali Professor (That’s more of a fitting title for his knowledge level) took me to a backstreet local restaurant for lunch, a place that if you’d ask me where you’d love to go try and eat, it would be everything I’d dream of!

they didn’t have their main door open, so we had to go knock from the back on their kitchen door, as they weren’t open for business yet, but they let us in and they were prepping everything fresh! all of the authentic local cuisine! right infront of us, and they said they will serve whatever is ready.

We sat down on a table (the table and the kitchen and everything is in the same place) and I went to get a coke from the fridge, I took a bottle out and next to the fridge there was the bottle opener thingie, and I thought I was doing it right, i kept on trying to push it down so hard, once..twice..three times! and the coke boiled its bubble up and spilled all over the place, and then Ganesh runs to save the day, he take the bottle from my hand, and on the upper side of the opener, a place that i didn’t even look, there was a simple thing that he just pushed the bottle in it, and it just opened! so simple…no resistance…nothing!

And I ofcourse cracked up laughing on how stupid and stubborn I am, as that wasn’t the first time such thing happen where I am tooooo sure that I 100% know what I’m doing, only for it to end up a disaster and that I have absolutely no clue what I’m doing.

While that incident wasn’t anything major, but it really made me reflect alot…and then towards the end of my tour we got tired so we just sat down to drink something and I found myself rambling like always eating Ganesh’s ears out, nonestop! and I spoke about how alot of people are shocked when they see my stories about Nepal, and that many are messaging me asking:
Do you recommend us coming??

And I told him, the answer is…No :)

On this trip I realised that Nepal is my favorite place on the planet earth!

literally I can keep on going there over and over again (I’ve been now 5 times already) and yet i don’t feel like thats enough! but do I recommend it to my friends…100% no! not my friends for sure! not anyone i know in dubai for sure!

They’d come here and see only what’s wrong, and they won’t notice everything that’s perfectly right! and I did try that before, I did recommend it to a friend and I was sooo excited for her trip, and what happened is!

she came back and shat on me! and it became a joke! I became a joke between her and the other friend that went with her! like what on earth did Lin see in this place! what the fuck did she see to recommend it like that.

Now I learned…when you are not destined to see beauty..you’d never see it!

And Nepal is such a spiritual place! I had no idea! But Buddha’s birth place was in Lumbini (an area in Nepal that I didn’t go to yet….mmm Hello April 2026?) Pashu Patinath, the temple in Kathmandu (you’ll see alot about it on TST channel) is like the Mecca for Hindu’s they literally come from all over the world to it!
Osho’s Tapoban, the place that I spent a week in! is literally out of all the Osho ashrams in the world this is the most legit one! the man that founded it, was a disciple of Osho when he was Alive and he was requested by Osho to go find a place in Nepal following exactly the same specifications of the Tapoban (somewhere in Nature, but not too far from airport and city, somewhere next to water (there’s a waterfall)…etc.) and Swami Anand Arun who is a Nepali man, came and found this place 3 months after the Passing of Osho…and honestly I won’t speak anything about the experience itself as that is a video on its own, but the location itself is soo magical! sooo peaceful! there’s a specific peace that I felt there…it was soo unique!

Btw Tapoban is a mix word in Sanskirt that means (Forest + Spirituality) so it literally means the Forest of Spirituality.

And these are few examples that now come to the top of my head, but I heard alot from Ganesh and honestly I never knew how magnificent Nepal is! until this trip!

like I always loved it but I never knew why I loved it! Do you know that World Meditation Day, was done based on the request of Swami Anand Arun, he kept on asking over and over again and pitching this to the UN (i think that was the organization) until they announced it as an official day.

So Nepal is a place that is all about spirituality, meditation, and just….peace! so if you are not a person who can sense and live those things..you’ll never like Nepal, so No! don’t go there!

Don’t go there because you will only see the pile of trash on the corner of the street, but you won’t see the magnificent temple right next to it which is carved out of stone…one slob of stone thousands of years ago!

So anyways back to my story…I was sitting on a little street cafe with Ganesh and we talked about the above, and I said when someone is not destined to see something…they just don’t see it! no matter how hard you try!

And I gave an example of myself, I passed through so many times in my life where people came into my life and I was dying for them to see how amazing I was! whether at work or romantically…literally DYING for them to see it! see “ME!”

and I’d go to insaneeeee extremes! just to try to show them! and they are just blind! absolutely blind! they’d see the faults in me but they won’t see all the amazing good things! and I am not a perfect human, I have soo many faults but I am aware of them! and because I am aware of them, I know that they are not measurable to all of my goodness! so it doesn’t make anysense for them to not see the goodness!

And I used to cry for days, and be heart broken and my self esteem would be shattered, because HOW ON EARTH THEY CAN’T SEE IT! and it would get to my head that I actually stop seeing it too! that i’d listen to their words:
“You are too much, too angry, too intense, too dramatic, too emotional, too…etc” nothing positive and everything negative and I’d believe them.

I’d believe them, and yet I’d see all the beauty in them, I’d love everything in them! even the bad stuff because who doesn’t have bad stuff! I accept people as they are…as the package that comes, even my friends…I know their bad/dark sides and khalas it doesn’t matter, I accept it! I accept that I’d have with you amazing memories and a life time of happiness, but some days I’d get XYZ…it’s not a big deal! not a deal breaker! those dark traits doesn’t define you! it shouldn’t define me too! but I wasn’t aware of this…or more like I wasn’t accepting this yet.

So with those relationships whether work or romantic, there was alot of resistance, alot of blockages, alot of conflict, alot of me trying, alot of me chasing, alot of me doing everything…and the respsonse is “block”. not necessarily actual block, but to be honest sometimes also that, but like block as in the person on the opposing side doesnt want to recieve anything from me, not my words, not my emotions…nothing.

Just resistance….

And it would take me soooo long to let go, soooo long! like honestly what the fuck is wrong with me I don’t know, but I just don’t let go…but every single time I did! I let go after too much resistance, every single time , something good happened!

If its work, then when i let go of what I thought was everything i wanted, but it wasn’t working out…when i let it go! i get something that I didn’t even know existed!

And in relationships whether romantic or friendship, whenever I’m with someone that I’m the one doing doing doing and only getting resistance, once I let go!

I meet someone that I’d have never imagined such a human can exist!

every time I loved and I thought I’d never love again, and I was holding on sooooo dearly to the idea of them, only to see resistance resistance resistance.

Once I let go….suddenly without even me looking…someone comes to my life and blows my mind! like how can such a person exist! and it would feel soo easy…sooo peaceful…no resistance!

no need to show who i am, to beg for approval….they just see it! they just see me!

Tomorrow I’m turning 33, and it took me probably 13 years to reach this realization:

If there’s too much resistance, then you let go…because it’s not for you.

So now, if I’m searching for a job and I’m dying for them to hire me and I’d do 5 interviews and they won’t hire me…I don’t get heart broken, I say and I truly believe it now (because before I’d say it without believing it) I’d say it’s not meant to be….I’ll find something else.

Same for people, they fuck me up! I fuck them up too (without causing actual harm as I don’t do that no matter who they are or what they did) but I match their energy, and then let go! no need to hold on! no need to try and fix it! no like literally fuck off i don’t have time nor energy for this.

I started detecting resistance…i started seeing it so clearly!

And trust me, take my advice for this one,

once you see resistance…just leave! leave no matter what it is…this is not it! something else is out there for you, something destined just for you.

So don’t waste your time holding on to what’s not for you….

Surrender…
let go of the resistance…and everything you’ve ever wished for or didn’t even know it’s humanly possible for such a thing to exist..it’ll become yours🙏

Peace out!